Showing posts with label Valentine's Day. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Valentine's Day. Show all posts

Sunday, March 17, 2013

Paper Heart

I started this post a month ago and am just finishing it now. They say better late than never, so here goes.

Valentine's Day is just around the corner, and in light of that, I've been contemplating writing a blog. Historically, my take on V Day has tended to be a cynical one. I usually scoff at the endless commercials for diamond jewelry, boxes of chocolate wrapped in gold foil, and dozens of long stem roses-the typical objects a man uses to express his affections toward a woman on V Day. Do I think it's ridiculous that society has chosen one day a year to express "love" through objects? Yes. Did I secretly want a man to give me diamonds, chocolate, and roses on V Day? Yes. Did it happen? No.

Insert sad song here.

Just kidding. You probably thought I'd spend the rest of this blog weaving a tale of woe, but I've decided to tell a better tale. It's the story of a paper heart.

It was 7:28 on a Thursday evening, and she walked into the food pantry with her dad. I didn't recognize her. Or him. This must have been their first time. I copied down the name and address from his drivers license and handed him a white piece of paper that listed the food items the pantry typically carries. Cereal, granola bars, pasta, peanut butter and jelly... This was the first Thursday of the month, which is the day my church community group serves at a local food pantry. We've been serving there for over six months, and it's been both a challenging and amazing experience. Challenging, because we see the faces of poverty and run around for 3 hours in a hot kitchen stuffing grocery bags with food and sometimes have picky clients who insist on particular kinds of canned soup. Amazing, because we're learning the names of the people we serve and have been able to build relationships with some of the clients and have seen God at work in and through us. We've been praying for more "God moments" at the pantry, and we've been getting them.

He finished checking off the items that he wanted, and I handed the list to a fellow volunteer to fill the order. I've assumed the role of check-in coordinator, so I'm usually the one at the kitchen window taking down names and keeping the paperwork organized while others fill the orders in the back. Rather than taking a seat at one of the available tables, they both stood near the counter, waiting for their order to be completed. I make attempts to strike up conversations with clients as much as possible, and this evening was no different than any other. I started talking with the girl. She had long brown hair, brown eyes, and a shy disposition. I found out that her name is Faith. She's 9 and is in the 3rd grade. We chatted for a couple of minutes- about her favorite subjects and such- and then I handed them two paper bags full of food. They thanked me and said goodbye. I carried on with organizing paperwork.

About 3 minutes after they walked out of the pantry, she came walking back into the room with a smile on her face and something in her hand. It was a paper heart. This paper heart.


She handed it to me and said she had made it in school for Valentines Day. She wanted me to have it. I took it from her hand and stared at the masterpiece I had been handed, amazed. I told her it was beautiful and thanked her with an even bigger smile on my face. She said she'd bring more next time and walked out. I held the paper heart in my hand, the muscle heart in my chest about as full as it could be. Such a special gift. It wasn't fancy or expensive, but it was genuine, and it was full of love.

There are different kinds of love, and all are amazing in their own ways. Valentines Day focuses on a specific kind- the kind that so many of us are seeking. I was shown another kind of love that Thursday evening, and it was exactly the kind that I needed that day. I think that paper heart reflected a piece of God's heart- an illustration of His goodness. And really, it doesn't get much better than that, no matter how dark the chocolate or red the roses may be.

Monday, February 14, 2011

Commercialized Love



















Welcome to February, the month of love. Commercialized love, that is. The month of long stem red roses, diamond bracelets, copious amounts of chocolate and stuffed animals holding hearts that say "I love you" when pressed. And all of this to celebrate a little tradition called Valentine's Day.

Well, I guess it's really not so little, since it has been celebrated in a number of countries around the world for centuries. But where did this tradition come from? The story goes something like this: St. Valentine was a Catholic priest who served in Rome in the third century. During that time, Emperor Claudius II outlawed marriage for all the young men in the country, arguing that they made better soldiers when they were single. St. Valentine felt that this decision was unjust, so he continued performing marriages in secret. Eventually, he was caught, imprisoned and killed for defying the law. However, his story and what he stood for- true love- live on, at least in part.

The meaning behind Valentine's Day has become a bit distorted, in my opinion. Or perhaps it's society's view on love that has become distorted. Valentine's Day has become another opportunity for businesses to make an extra buck off of unsuspecting consumers. But, I suppose we know what we're getting ourselves into, since we're the ones buying into the commercialization of the holiday. As soon as February 1 rolls around, and often before then, we begin to be inundated with commercials about love, and how you can show her you really love her by buying a 14 kt gold diamond and ruby bracelet with a matching pair of diamond studs, on special for only $499.99. Can't afford it? Don't worry, we offer financing. And don't forget to pick up a dozen long stem roses, which just so happen to be tripled in price to compensate for the extra 3/4" of ribbon and overabundance of cellophane wrap, which all contribute to the illusion of "love."Supply and demand. Or is it demand and supply?

All of these material objects are paraded around as if they represent love. Sure, these things can be an expression of one's love, but they don't represent it. "Love is patient, love is kind." Love is not a diamond bracelet or dinner at a 5 star restaurant. Love is not a dozen roses, or even two dozen roses. And it is certainly not a stuffed animal holding a giant red heart. That's disgusting. I once received a rather large balloon for V Day that would play "I love you, babe" every time it was touched. I ended up breaking up with my boyfriend the following weekend. No, not because of the balloon, although subconsciously, there may have been a correlation. Why didn't he go for the diamond bracelet instead???

Perhaps I'm painting Valentine's Day in a negative light, as a result of my cynicism and frustration. Or maybe I'm painting it in a rational light. I mean, if you love someone, you should love them all year long, right? You could buy her flowers or make him dinner any day of the year. So I don't see the need to put all of this pressure on one particular day, setting expectations extremely high, which often leads to disappointment and an empty bank account. If you want to get her flowers or a diamond bracelet, by all means, do it. But not because it's what society has said is the right thing to do, and certainly not because you let clever marketing campaigns get the best of you.

Enjoy Valentine's Day, but remember what it's really about: LOVE. Not things. Not chocolate covered strawberries, candied hearts or diamond rings. And while you're enjoying the day, check out this classic video, which offers a bit of wisdom, in addition to a fabulous tune.


For more details on the history of Valentine's Day,  check out http://www.history.com/topics/valentines-day.