Working Vacation

I've heard the term "working vacation" tossed around before, and it always seemed like a pretty contradictory concept to me. I always think of vacation as an absence of work in one form or another. So whether you're vacationing from washing dishes (work) or from your daily exercise sessions (work) or from going into the office and composing dozens of emails to which you will never receive a response (work), vacation is a brief (or lengthy) hiatus from these typical routines that seem so often to dominate our lives.

So how did this idea of a working vacation come into being? I suspect that it evolved in the US of A as a way to justify professionals who decide not to be in the office for 80+ hours per week, but don't want to appear to be slackers. If you think about it, the work standards in the US (and this is generalization) are far more rigorous than in most other developed countries. Take Europe, for example. I've had the opportunity to travel throughout much of Western Europe, and one of the things that has stood out to me is the fact that Europeans work to live, rather than the other way around, which I think is a problem for so many Americans. For example, some countries (like Italy and Switzerland) close businesses for an hour at lunch to allow for nap time. Mandatory naps... that's got to be one of the greatest inventions since the wheel. Then I think of first year lawyers or doctor who are working an average of 80-90 hours per week with no end in sight. Perhaps one of the reasons for this is that they actually have that much work that needs to be accomplished. However, I'm positive that there's also an element of competition and "proving" of oneself to the boss. Oh self-imposed unattainable standards and skewed perceptions of success... whatever would we do without you?

Moving on from my rambles... I have to say that I've become a working vacation connoisseur over this past year. A significant part of my job involves traveling around the country (and world) networking, giving presentations, and fundraising. I also spend a significant amount of time doing online research and sending emails, which can be done from pretty much anywhere. I'm currently based in Philadelphia, but I am originally from southern California and still have a lot of contacts there, as well as family and friends. Since fundraising is not geographically restricted, I have been able to travel a significant amount with my job. In fact, I'm just reaching the conclusion of my 4th California visit of the year.

The initial reason for returning to my homeland most recently (other than the sunshine) is that two high school friends were getting married, and I was asked to be a bridesmaid in both of their wedding. Since I knew that I'd be coming out anyway, I took it upon myself to set up as many meetings/presentations/networking opportunities as possible during my time on the west coast, and succeeded in prolonging my trip to 2 1/2 weeks. I was able to stay with friends and family the entire time, and since I don't have an office out here, my working space took a variety of forms, depending on my location. However, my absolute favorite work space is beside the pool (pictured above). During the first week of this trip, the weather was sunny and hot, so I spent several hours each day sweating by the pool to the sound of the keyboard as I worked on a business plan, marketing materials, and emails. There's nothing like working on business documents and a tan simultaneously.

All that being said, I've changed my perception of a working vacation from a falsely-advertised hiatus from responsibility to a unique opportunity to capitalize on travels and to take advantage of the random opportunities to visit family and friends while also handling business. It can be challenging to maintain a consistent work ethic and schedule when I'm out of the typical work environment, but with a little self-motivation, I've learned how to balance work with pleasure, and now thoroughly enjoy the freedom and excitement that working vacations provide!

Recent Artwork

I've always been interested in various forms of artistic expression (drawing, painting, sewing, photography), but haven't invested much time into cultivating my skills. However, as of late, I have had the urge to explore my creative side. So, I've taken it upon myself to do a number of paintings and other "crafty" projects for the house. Here's one of my recent projects, which now hangs above the fireplace in the living room.



This is half of the 2-canvas project. I wanted to use birds as my theme, and was using a number of different pictures as inspiration for mine.



This is the other half of my project.



And this is what they look like together. Before I started the project, I knew that I wanted to have a continuous picture over the 2 canvases. I love vibrant colors, so I thought I definitely went for the bold look. I ran into an issue of the bird on the blue canvas not standing out enough from the background, so I decided to add a lighter oolor behind, which immediately looked like a moon. What started out as merely two different colored backgrounds came to represent "night and day." The birds' names are Winston and Harriet.

What I'm NOT Looking for in a Guy

It seems to be a common occurrence for single ladies to make a list of what they're looking for in a guy. It may only be a mental list, but the list still exists. Makes sense. I think it's extremely important to know what you want beforehand. In my experience, this aids in the whole "shopping" process. I have a list, and in fact, it's a rather lengthy one. It started out as general ideas, but over the years, I've amended, restructured, and re-prioritized my list. As I get older, I realize that I don't want the same things in a guy that I did 5 years ago, and I'm sure I'll feel the same way 5 years from now. Rather than make a list of "Mr. Perfect," who, by the way, DOES NOT EXIST (this is a topic for another blog post), I decided to make a list of some of the things that I definitely do not want in a guy. Here goes.

What I'm not looking for in a guy:

A boy
Let me begin this list by saying that as I progress along in my 20s (I know I'm only 23, but that's a lot older than 19), I have realized more and more that guys do not seem to progress in maturity the way girls do. Stereotype? Yes. Reality? In most cases. As my interests have evolved from weekend mall shopping trips to dinner and a glass of wine with friends, I have found that many guys are still interested in the equivalent of the shopping trip. This brings me to the next thing on my list, which is:

A boy who loves video games
If your idea of a good time is sitting in front of the television and living in a virtual world for hours upon end, then you have some growing up to do, and I'm really not interested in your company. What boggles my mind is that so many guys spend countless hours playing sports with their thumbs, when they are fully capable of engaging in healthy physical activities in real life. Even worse than the sports are the fantasy worlds in which wizards fight dragons and communicate in unintelligible languages. Really? I mean, really? If you invested as much time in reality as you do in fantasy land, you'd probably be a decent date. But for now, I'll pass.

A boy who loves video games and lives at home
Let me preface this statement by saying that I totally understand when situations do now allow for financial independence, and the smart thing to do is to live at home until you can afford to move out. Absolutely fine. However, there comes a time when enough is enough. So you're 26 and your mom still does your laundry. Cute. Oh, and she makes you and your friends snacks when they come over to play video games? Gag me. The issue with this scenario is complacency and inability/refusal to strive for something more. If you tell me that you still live at home, you better show me a 10-step action plan for how you are working your way to maturity and independence.

A boy who loves video games, lives at home and is into himself
One of the things that most repulses me about a guy is when he's into himself. I don't care if you're the most attractive guy in the world. Conceit is never flattering. There's a huge difference between having healthy self-confidence and being arrogant. One is attractive, the other is not. And you can always tell who these guys are. They're the ones who walk around with their Polo shirt collars popped and their Armani shades resting on the bridge of their nose. They have this air about them that screams "Check me out. I'm cool." Well, I hate to burst your bubble, but not only am I unimpressed with your not-so-subtle tactics, but your arrogance will be the topic of my jokes for the day.

A boy who loves video games, lives at home, is into himself and doesn't dress well
If you meet all of these criteria, you're a real winner! In my opinion, one of the signs of maturity, responsibility and success is learning how to dress yourself appropriately, no matter the occasion. I'm not asking you to spend thousands of dollars on a wardrobe. What I am asking is for you not to wear pajamas out in public. Ever. And if I catch you wearing the same outfit three days in a row, that's a no go. My favorite is having multiple pairs of the same pants and wearing them every single day. Seriously? Are you so unimaginative that you can't have any variance in color or style? That's boring and makes you look like a slob who lacks in self-esteem. Brutal, but honest. So, wear grungy jeans and an old t-shirt when you're changing the oil, but not when you're going out. I'm not advocating tuxes on a daily basis, but I think it's important to consider your environment and audience when dressing yourself in the morning.

So, I'm sure there are plenty of other things that I could add to this list, but it's getting late and you're probably tired of reading this novel. This is simply something that I've been thinking about as of late and thought I'd share. Guys (if there are any guys who actually take the time to get through this), sorry if it was a bit harsh. It was unintentional (mostly), and if you found yourself associating with my list, use this as constructive criticism and "man up!"

How to Spend 6 Days in Scandinavia for $200

I recently returned from a trip to Scandinavia, where I spent three days in Stockholm and three days in Copenhagen, all for only $200. You may be asking yourself how this is possible, since Scandinavian countries are the most expensive in the world, and you can't even spend that little visiting a city here in the US. Well, I'm here to tell you that it IS possible, and that I had a fabulous time on a dime. I'll break it down according to my costs:

Lodging
This is where I saved the most money. In fact, my lodging was free. FREE! I found this amazing website called globalfreeloaders.com, which is basically a network of people all over the world who open up their home to travelers. It's free to sign up, and all you have to do is type in the city you're visiting and then dates you'll be there, and a list of people in that city who are on the network pops up. There's a description for each member, and you basically choose who you'd like to stay with and email them to ask if they'd be willing to host you. So, I found a host for both Stockholm and Copenhagen, which ended up being a good cultural experience.

Transportation
In both Stockholm and Copenhagen, I bought 72 hour transportation cards, which basically gets you on any train, bus or metro in the city for free. I paid about $30 each, but it's way cheaper to do it this way than to pay for each individual train/bus ride you take. I suppose if you stay in the middle of downtown, you wouldn't necessarily need to take transportation at all (except to the airport). But I thought they were great to have. As a side note, the public transportation systems in Sweden and Denmark are fantastic (as they are throughout the majority of western Europe). As a second side note, bikes are SUPER popular in both cities, so you might want to rent one. They're actually free in Copenhagen. All you do is leave a small deposit, which you get back when you return the bike.

Food
Food and drinks are fairly expensive in Scandinavia. Most things there are at least double the price you would pay here in the States. You're going to spend at least $25-$30 for a sit down meal, and much more than that at the nicer restaurants. It's definitely possible to find affordable places to eat, but they are few and far between. For this reason, I didn't eat out. I brought granola bars and beef jerkey with me from home, which were great snacks for my travels. In both cities, I went to the grocery store and bough bread, cheese (the cheese there is delicious!) and pears. Between all of those things, I was good to go. If you're into fine dining, then you wouldn't want to take this approach, but I wasn't there for the food, so it worked out fine for me. The tap water there is super safe to drink, so I just filled up my water bottle different places I visited. I broke down and purchased a banana nutella crepe in Copenhagen, which ended up being a marvelous idea. I probably spent about $20 for food in both cities.

Entertainment/Tourism
My ideas of sightseeing is walking around and seeing the sights (makes sense, right?). So I did A LOT of walking. I would estimate about 8-9 hours of walking each day. Of course there were intervals of short breaks, but I was constantly on the go. The great thing about walking is that it's free, and it allows you to see things that you would most likely miss if you relied solely on public transportation to get around. There were tons of fabulous things to see- great architecture, beautiful parks, amazing sunsets... All of these things were free. However, I did allocate some spending money for visiting select places. In Stockholm, I paid to take a tour of City Hall and to climb the tower at City Hall, which offers a breathtaking view of the city. I also paid to take a tour of both palaces-the one where the King works and the one where the royal family lives. All three of these were TOTALLY worth paying to see. I think the three of those cost me between $30-$40. In Copenhagen, I paid to visit the old castle, which was pretty small but also totally worth seeing. The royal jewels were available for viewing as part of the tour. I also paid to climb a church tower for a view of the city. I think I spent about $20 between those two. I still have my student ID from college, and I put it to good use. The prices I paid were all student prices. Had I paid normal admission, it would have been at least twice the cost. A little dishonest? Yes. But, I figured if I still look young enough to pass as a college student, great. Plus, I'm fairly sure that neither Sweden nor Denmark are in need of my money.

Souvenirs
I bought a few magnets and some post cards to send home to the family, but that's it. I think of the hundreds of pictures that I took as souvenirs, so I really didn't feel the need to purchase t-shirts or small figurines. I think I spent about $15 in total.

So, if you add up all of those costs (give or take a few bucks), I ended up spending around $200 for six days of sightseeing. I must say, I'm quite impressed with myself. Granted, not everyone would enjoy the kind of traveling that I do, but it works for me. I had a fabulous time, and highly recommend both cities to everyone!

What 5' 2" Gets You

We ran out of creamer at the office today, and I knew I would be needing a second cup of coffee in the afternoon, so I decided to swing by the grocery store during my lunch break and pick some up. Generally, we get the regular creamer. But not today. I walked to the refrigerator section of the store and found what I was looking for. It was on the top shelf, and there were only two left, which means they were all the way in the back. Despite standing on my tip toes in my 2 inch heels, there was no way I was going to reach the back. I very briefly considered climbing onto the first shelf for a boost, but came to my senses and realized that I'm 23 years old and really shouldn't be doing things like that anymore. Then I glanced around to see if there were any tall shoppers around who would be willing to help a shorty out, but there was no one in sight. So I grabbed the fat-free version, which was one shelf lower and within my reach. No big deal, and it's clearly the healthier option. I just found it interesting that my options were automatically limited due to my height.

Kid on a Leash

So I decided to go on an adventure to Valley Forge this weekend, and as I was walking around, I saw a situation that made me chuckle. There was a typical American family- the dad, the mom, the child and the dog. I could tell they were from Boston by their accents. Nothing too abnormal about that. But then I took a second look, and I discovered that the dad was walking the dog, and the mom was walking the kid. Both on leashes. Hilarious! Of course this isn't the first time that I've seen a child on a leash, but I have to laugh out loud every time I have the pleasure of experiencing this phenomenon. I understand the reasoning behind the decision to put your kid on a leash, but I certainly don't agree with it. If you can't control your child enough to have them walk next to you, then there's either something wrong with your child or something wrong with your parenting skills. Children need to learn self-restraint rather than being physically restrained like a dog. Funny? Yes. But not something I will do if I ever have children.

Lazy Saturday Afternoon

It is a very rare experience when I find myself with an entirely free day. No obligations, no specific plans, nothing holding me down or back. Today is one of those days, and it has been FANTASTIC so far. Interestingly enough, I always feel the need to set my alarm, even if there is absolutely no reason for me to be up at a reasonable hour. I inevitably end up pressing snooze multiple times, which defies the purpose of setting my alarm in the first place... Oh the things I do merely for the sake of doing them. Despite my slightly late start this morning, I've been on a mission to get a lot accomplished. While most people think of weekends as a time to sit on the couch and watch television, I consider the fact that the weekends are really the only time I have to do anything other than work, which makes me want to take advantage of them and accomplish as many "non-work" tasks as possible. Ironically, I usually do a significant amount of house work, but I actually find it to be relaxing. Or at least I find that I can relax much more in a clean house than in a dirty one. So after thoroughly cleaning my car, both inside and out, and cleaning up a bit around the house, I decided to practice the discipline of relaxation by laying out in the backyard and drawing. The way I see it, although laying out is a rather lazy thing to do, I was simultaneously working on my tan and exploring my artistic side. Multitasking during a lazy activity makes me feel much more accomplished. I ended up having a lengthy phone conversation with a friend, which means I didn't get any drawing done. But now that I'm back in the clean (and ever so relaxing) house, it's time to get started on my next masterpiece. I'm fully enjoying the lack of obligations and activities of the day, and am beginning to think that there may be some merit in succumbing to laziness every once in a while.